WTF is an "open relationship" REALLY?!?!

An open relationship is a relationship in which the participants are free to have emotional and/or physical relationships with other partners, often within mutually agreed limits. If a couple in an open relationship are married, it can be called an open marriage. (via Wikipedia)

OK...THIS FUCKERY RIGHT HERE IS THAT BULLSHIT!

Lemme break this shit down right fast. If there are a group of 100 people that "start out" with the mind set that an "open relationship" can work for them, I can almost guarantee you that 87 of them won't make it!  You gotta be pretty strong minded, understanding, and OPEN (key word), in order to even say that you can deal with an open relationship! Ask yourself this question: "If my man/woman walks out the door to go out with someone else, can I look them in the face and act like the shit didn't happen?".  If you answered yes, and are true with yourself, you might be one of the chosen few that will experience the best that life has to offer.

Is there something wrong with being in love with a man/woman, but wanting some “new new”?  Maybe you want to test your skills, and see if what makes him or her scream to the top of their lungs, will do the same for the next man.  Or, is it that you are trying to save your relationship and feel that being “open” is possibly the last chance you have for survival?

I will say this, it isn’t for the weak at heart, yet I feel as though it can be very healthy.  I think of humans as mammals (which we are), put on this planet to procreate, and not meant to be with the same partner for the rest of our lives. And don’t get me wrong, I love my boyfriend with all of my heart, but don’t think it doesn’t cross my mind that he might be “tired” or “bored” with the same ol’, same ol’.

And should one be worried about what the other does when one isn’t around?  Why not be like Mario Winans and just go with the “I don’t wanna know” aspect of things? They say “What you don’t know won’t hurt you”.  Makes me wonder when I see people on Facebook in these “open relationships”, but you got 2-3 females going at each other on the page.  Should you tell your “main” what you do outside of y’alls relationship, or should you just be happy they come back home at all?  It should be like the military, “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell”. It would make things a lot safer right? *shrugs shoulders*

Could it all be so simple?

What do you think?

~Jennevieve

Men...Please stop practicing BITCHASSNESS!

Why, oh why, do men seem to practice “Bitchassness”?  Do they even take into consideration the people they are hurting when they do “Bitch Ass” shit?  Yet, they will be the FIRST ones running back with the “Baby, I’m sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you!” #BoyBANG

Let me tell you something right now!  I have a ZERO TOLERANCE for this type of FUCKERY!  People need to start acting their age and NOT their shoe size!  Where is this story stemming from you ask?  Well here we go:

A friend of mine happened to go to a birthday party and was “white girl wasted”.  She pretty much got a little out of control and “showed her ass” (literally). Oh, I forgot to mention that this whole fiasco was video recorded!  Now, I witnessed the video myself, and it wasn’t too bad, I definitely didn’t expect to see that side of her, but it’s not like she as giving the birthday boy fellatio like the other female that was there! (I’m still in awe about that by the way o_O). 

Now I know that I’ve been a lil’ tipsy myself, and may have been a little out of hand, but the “men” that I hang with are understanding, and can tell when I am doing things out of character and don’t hold it against me! (Sorry, I got a little side tracked, we aren’t talking about me).

So somebody explain to me why would a “bitch ass man” post the video on the girl’s Facebook page and then call her out of her name for everyone and their mama to see? WHO DOES THAT?!?!  I could totally see if you are trying to expose a person for who they REALLY are, but I know, and I KNOW his bitch ass knows, that she soooooo isn’t like that!  Why did he practice “BITCHASSNESS” and try to ruin her life?  What exactly was he trying to prove?  And why couldn’t he be an adult about it and call her and talk to her about it like a REAL MAN should?  Or if he felt the need to post the video, why not post it in her inbox so that he could discuss it that way?  And then niggas wonder why females turn gay!

I can’t wait to see how this whole situation gets handled. If it was me, I wouldn’t be talking to him anymore, because he could never be, and obviously never was, a friend of mine!

What do you think?

~Jennevieve

Can You Leave Feelings At The Door Before You Enter The "Sex Room"?

OK...

So a few months ago, I was introduced to the world of the "Secret Facebook sex groups"! What "groups" are these you ask? Well if you haven't been in one...let me "hip" you to it.  There are these "groups" on Facebook that are only available to you when you're invited by other members.  It seems like everyday I am added to yet ANOTHER one! Some of them are boring, others are QUITE entertaining if I do say so myself.

Anywho, most of these rooms I enter start out cool, most of the rooms have "rules and regulations" and it seems as tho MOST of them are just a place for everyone to post pictures of private parts to "ooooh and ahhhh" over, eventually have mind blowing sex, and then keep it moving.  Now in a perfect "Sex Room" world, that would be how things work!  But ooooohhhhhh no! What fun would it be without some "FUCKERY"? So let's talk about it!

ALL OF THESE ROOMS HAVE SOME LEVEL OF DRAMA! I don't care how much you try to cover it up...it's there! These are the kinds of "members" I've witnessed:

1. His/Her Royal Highness: The one(s) that run the show! Usually THEY are fucking each other on a regular basis and don't really step out on each other, but don't you dare tell them that they are "bunned" up because they will be quick to tell you that shit ain't the truth! Like you were born last night! Ha! They are usually the Admins (decision makers of their Kingdom) and can make the choice of whether you stay or go!

2. The Player(s): He's smashing ALL the homies and all his bitches love him (*breaks out into my Dougie*) and he loves them back.  He usually has a "main one" as well, however he is so good at what he does, he makes each one of them feel special when the next one ain't around, real smooth with it too. How does he find the time to keep up?

3. The Drama Queen(s): She's always starting shit, grabbing her popcorn, and enjoying the show. But don't you dare try to bring the drama to her, because she is CUT THROAT! Will make a big ass deal about shit that shouldn't even be an issue because these rooms are supposed to be "Drama Free Zones", "Everyone is here to have fun" right? o_O

4. The Looky Lou(s): In the room but NEVER say shit, just be in the cut lookin' at all the pictures and posts that are put in the room. Why are you even here? "It's a 'Secret Society', all we ask is trust" with ya sneaky ass! LOL

5. The Down Ass Bitch(es): She's kinda like "The Player" as well...only difference is "she don't love them ho's", she's here for the soul purpose of the room! To fuck and suck on whoever she wants to, whenever she wants to, and CLEARLY believes that "Sharing is Caring", leaving them feelings at the door! Yet don't get it twisted, she can definately bring the "drama" if she wants to, but 8 out of 10 times, it's provoked, and it's usually provoked by someone who "got in their damn feelings".

6. "That Guy/Girl": They wonder "what is it about me?" all the time, sometimes not realizing that not everyone is for everybody. And once they do reel in "the bait", they find it hard to throw the fish back to swim amongst the other fish! But the one they want, always wants someone a little more than them and they learn to accept it...but they don't like it!

There are probably more "characters" but these main ones pretty much sum it up! Now with that said? Why is it so hard to keep feelings at the door when entering these highly, sexually fueled rooms? Why is it soooo hard to differentiate LOVE from LUST? Why is it that women can't do what men have been doing for centuries and just "not give a fuck"? Just enjoy this pleasure known as an orgasm and keep it moving? Just "call me when you need me" and that's it. Why can't men stop trying to be the "King of the Castle" and just be part of a "Brotherhood" like in a Fraternity? I mean, ain't the saying "Bro's before Ho's"? It amazes me how much these niggas say that shit, but fall in love so quick...

My opinion: I've learned in my short life (yes...my life is short because I am just now getting started), that you can't get your feelings wrapped around people that you are supposed to be having just a "sexual" relationship with. I used to be "That Girl"...but that was sooooo long ago and I am glad that she is no longer an issue.  I quickly learned to check them feelings at the door.  I can turn them off and on like a light switch.  I would compare myself to Samantha from "Sex In The City": a highly confident and sexual woman who is outspoken and a self-proclaimed "try-sexual", I enjoy a great orgasm when I get one, but don't put all my monkeys in one barrel.  Why sell yourself short?

What do you think?

~Jennevieve